This definitely indicates a mishandling of the situation, that leaves room for improvement.
I agree with that and do think that having a better system to share information would be good.
With regards to the latter, if someone was triggering psychotic breaks in my community, I would feel no shame in kicking them out, even if it was unintentional.
If Vassar tells someone about how the organization for which they are working is corrupt and the person Vassar is talking with considers his arguments persuasive, that’s going to be bad for their mental health.
Anna Salamon wrote that post because she believes that some arguments made about how CFAR was corrupt were reasonable arguments.
To the extent that the rationalist ideal makes sense, it includes not ostracising people for speaking out uncomfortable truths even if those uncomfortable truths are bad for the mental health of some people.
We already know he’s been using his connection with Yud (via HPMOR) to try and seduce people.
The seduction here is “Look, I’m bad in a way that I served as a template for the evil villain”.
While “X is a bad boy” can be attractive to some women, it should be a very clear sign that he’s poor relationship material. It also shouldn’t be surprising for anyone when he’s actually a bad boy in that relationship.
A woman who wants a relationship with a bad boy can find that and it feels a bit paternalistic to say that a woman who wants that shouldn’t get any opportunity to get that.
I do think there are good reasons not to have him at meetups but it’s a complex decision.
I agree with that and do think that having a better system to share information would be good.
If Vassar tells someone about how the organization for which they are working is corrupt and the person Vassar is talking with considers his arguments persuasive, that’s going to be bad for their mental health.
Anna Salamon wrote that post because she believes that some arguments made about how CFAR was corrupt were reasonable arguments.
To the extent that the rationalist ideal makes sense, it includes not ostracising people for speaking out uncomfortable truths even if those uncomfortable truths are bad for the mental health of some people.
The seduction here is “Look, I’m bad in a way that I served as a template for the evil villain”.
While “X is a bad boy” can be attractive to some women, it should be a very clear sign that he’s poor relationship material. It also shouldn’t be surprising for anyone when he’s actually a bad boy in that relationship.
A woman who wants a relationship with a bad boy can find that and it feels a bit paternalistic to say that a woman who wants that shouldn’t get any opportunity to get that.
I do think there are good reasons not to have him at meetups but it’s a complex decision.