So, did I or didn’t I come across as unfriendly/hostile?
You didn’t to me, but also (a) I know you in person and (b) I’m generally pretty happy to be in forceful arguments and don’t interpret them as unfriendly / hostile, while other people plausibly would (see also combat culture). So really I think I’m the wrong person to ask.
So, given that I wanted to do both 1 and 2, would you think it would have been fine if I had just made them as separate comments, instead of mentioning 1 in passing in the thread on 2? Or do you think I really should have picked one to do and not done both?
I think you can do both, if it’s clear that you’re doing these as two separate things. (Which could be by having two different comments, or by signposting clearly in a single comment.)
In this particular situation I’m objecting to starting with (2), then switching to (1) after a critique without acknowledging that you had updated on (2) and so were going to (1) instead. When I see that behavior from a random Internet commenter I’m like “ah, you are one of the people who rationalizes reasons for beliefs, and so your beliefs do not respond to evidence, I will stop talking with you now”. You want to distinguish yourself from the random Internet commenter.
(And if you hadn’t updated on (2), then my objection would have been “you are bad at collaborative truth-seeking, you started to engage on one node and then you jumped to a totally different node before you had converged on that one node, you’ll never make progress this way”.)
Something about your characterization of what happened continues to feel unfair & inaccurate to me, but there’s definitely truth in it & I think your advice is good so I will stop arguing & accept the criticism & try to remember it going forward. :)
You didn’t to me, but also (a) I know you in person and (b) I’m generally pretty happy to be in forceful arguments and don’t interpret them as unfriendly / hostile, while other people plausibly would (see also combat culture). So really I think I’m the wrong person to ask.
I think you can do both, if it’s clear that you’re doing these as two separate things. (Which could be by having two different comments, or by signposting clearly in a single comment.)
In this particular situation I’m objecting to starting with (2), then switching to (1) after a critique without acknowledging that you had updated on (2) and so were going to (1) instead. When I see that behavior from a random Internet commenter I’m like “ah, you are one of the people who rationalizes reasons for beliefs, and so your beliefs do not respond to evidence, I will stop talking with you now”. You want to distinguish yourself from the random Internet commenter.
(And if you hadn’t updated on (2), then my objection would have been “you are bad at collaborative truth-seeking, you started to engage on one node and then you jumped to a totally different node before you had converged on that one node, you’ll never make progress this way”.)
OK. I’ll DM Nuno.
Something about your characterization of what happened continues to feel unfair & inaccurate to me, but there’s definitely truth in it & I think your advice is good so I will stop arguing & accept the criticism & try to remember it going forward. :)