Hey Maya, I like your post. It has a very EA conversational style to it which will hopefully help it be well received and I’m guessing took some effort.
A problem I can’t figure out, which you or someone else might be able to help suggest solutions to -
-If I (or someone else) post about something emotional without suggestions for action, everyone’s compassionate but nothing happens, or people suggest actions that I don’t think would help
-If I (or someone else) post about something emotional and suggest some actions that could help fix it, people start debating those actions, and that doesn’t feel like the emotions are being listened to
-But just accepting actions because they’re linked to a bad experience isn’t the right answer either, because someone could have really useful experience to share but their suggestions might be totally wrong
I think you may be on the right track with how you wrote this comment actually—taking a moment to let the person know they were heard before switching to problem-solving mode.
IMO social media websites should sometimes give users a reminder to do this after they hit the “submit” button, but before their comment is posted. Perhaps the submit button could check whether a particular tag is present on the original post?
Maybe one way to address this would be separate posts? The first raises the problems, shares emotions. The second suggests particular actions that could help.
Hey Maya, I like your post. It has a very EA conversational style to it which will hopefully help it be well received and I’m guessing took some effort.
A problem I can’t figure out, which you or someone else might be able to help suggest solutions to -
-If I (or someone else) post about something emotional without suggestions for action, everyone’s compassionate but nothing happens, or people suggest actions that I don’t think would help
-If I (or someone else) post about something emotional and suggest some actions that could help fix it, people start debating those actions, and that doesn’t feel like the emotions are being listened to
-But just accepting actions because they’re linked to a bad experience isn’t the right answer either, because someone could have really useful experience to share but their suggestions might be totally wrong
If anyone has any suggestions, I’d welcome them!
I think you may be on the right track with how you wrote this comment actually—taking a moment to let the person know they were heard before switching to problem-solving mode.
IMO social media websites should sometimes give users a reminder to do this after they hit the “submit” button, but before their comment is posted. Perhaps the submit button could check whether a particular tag is present on the original post?
This is well put.
I think people can say that debating is their way of trying to care. Not a full solution but I think people don’t sometimes realise this.
Maybe one way to address this would be separate posts? The first raises the problems, shares emotions. The second suggests particular actions that could help.