Thanks for posting this update. I prefer to have it out rather than pending, and I think it’s appropriate that people will get a sense of approximately the scope of what happened. I deeply regret my actions, which were wrong and harmful; I think it’s a fair standard to expect me to have known better; I will of course abide by the restrictions you’re imposing.
I spent a lot of last year working on these issues, and I put up an update in December; that’s still the best place to understand my perspective on things going forwards.
I think that the first-order impression given by these findings is broadly accurate — I did a poor job of navigating feelings of romantic attraction, failed to track others’ experiences, took actions which were misguided and wrong, and hurt people. For most readers that’s probably enough to be going with. Other people might be interested in more granularity, either because they care about the nature of my character flaws and what types of mistakes I might be prone to in the future, or because they care about building detailed pictures of the patterns that cause harm. For this audience I’ve put my takes on the specific findings in this document. My December update also includes implicit discussion of some subtle harms not discussed in EV’s findings.
I continue to care a lot about this community, including making it a very safe, inclusive, and welcoming space. I am pained that I’ve hurt individuals, and harmed the fabric of the community itself. I’d like to do whatever I can to contribute to it continuing to build towards being the best version of itself, but I expect I’ll continue to tread cautiously in community interactions for a while (as well as avoiding romance-related things altogether).
I didn’t downvote (because as you say it’s providing relevant information), but I did have a negative reaction to the comment. I think the generator of that negative reaction is roughly: the vibe of the comment seems more like a political attempt to close down the conversation than an attempt to cooperatively engage. I’m reminded of “missing moods”; it seems like there’s a legitimate position of “it would be great to have time to hash this out but unfortunately we find it super time consuming so we’re not going to”, but it would naturally come with a mood of sadness that there wasn’t time to get into things, whereas the mood here feels more like “why do we have to put up with you morons posting inaccurate critiques?”. And perhaps that’s a reasonable position, but it at least leaves a kind of bad taste.