Behaving decently is nice; that doesn’t remove the point I was asking about: ignoring the other arguments I brought-up. It seems, repeatedly, that the call of appropriateness is used to ignore the substance of the other arguments; which continues to be the case, in this thread.
I just re-read your comment and I can understand your frustration more now. Maybe I was too harsh and blunt, my apologies. I think it’s totally fair for people to not want to engage with someone until they stop being so rude. But if this happens nearly every time you say the slightest thing wrong, that seems like a problem. (For my part, I often just comment on one part of a comment/post when I don’t feel I have much to add regarding the other parts. I didn’t mean to imply that the other parts aren’t worth people engaging with simply because you were rude in one part. But as I said, I do understand why they might not want to.)
Thank you! You are welcome to check—the dismissals had begun, in multiple threads, before a peep from me; they were the initial replies. I became hot in response, only then, which your forum abhors—and I understand that I am downvoted for it! I don’t expect you to give me a soap-box in your living room, when I keep offending you.
I can also drop my guise, which I understand if you find doubly offensive: a troll-trap.
After being misrepresented repeatedly, this time I intentionally included the word ‘nerd’, to see if that would be enough to ignore the other points—YET! I didn’t expect that you would take my critique of hiring as a strike against the woman, who is a thoughtful and diligent member of your community, and would definitely do an excellent job assisting! I’m glad to speak in her favor—the question was why, with her quick hire, others languished in comparison? And I pointed to the risk of men in power pulling a 1950′s-style ‘I get $90k as researcher, and I date my $50k secretary’. THAT is where my heart-strings leapt to shout!
In other threads, my arguments were repeatedly misrepresented or unaddressed, while comments consisted of ‘we shouldn’t fund this, it’s not appropriate’ when I specified at the outset that I was not seeking funding; ‘this should be posted somewhere else’, etc. And only in a few instances, out of dozens of responses, have EA commenters addressed the substance of what I wrote.
It’s our way of saying, “Come back and talk to us when you’re ready to behave decently.”
Behaving decently is nice; that doesn’t remove the point I was asking about: ignoring the other arguments I brought-up. It seems, repeatedly, that the call of appropriateness is used to ignore the substance of the other arguments; which continues to be the case, in this thread.
I just re-read your comment and I can understand your frustration more now. Maybe I was too harsh and blunt, my apologies. I think it’s totally fair for people to not want to engage with someone until they stop being so rude. But if this happens nearly every time you say the slightest thing wrong, that seems like a problem. (For my part, I often just comment on one part of a comment/post when I don’t feel I have much to add regarding the other parts. I didn’t mean to imply that the other parts aren’t worth people engaging with simply because you were rude in one part. But as I said, I do understand why they might not want to.)
Thank you! You are welcome to check—the dismissals had begun, in multiple threads, before a peep from me; they were the initial replies. I became hot in response, only then, which your forum abhors—and I understand that I am downvoted for it! I don’t expect you to give me a soap-box in your living room, when I keep offending you.
I can also drop my guise, which I understand if you find doubly offensive: a troll-trap.
After being misrepresented repeatedly, this time I intentionally included the word ‘nerd’, to see if that would be enough to ignore the other points—YET! I didn’t expect that you would take my critique of hiring as a strike against the woman, who is a thoughtful and diligent member of your community, and would definitely do an excellent job assisting! I’m glad to speak in her favor—the question was why, with her quick hire, others languished in comparison? And I pointed to the risk of men in power pulling a 1950′s-style ‘I get $90k as researcher, and I date my $50k secretary’. THAT is where my heart-strings leapt to shout!
In other threads, my arguments were repeatedly misrepresented or unaddressed, while comments consisted of ‘we shouldn’t fund this, it’s not appropriate’ when I specified at the outset that I was not seeking funding; ‘this should be posted somewhere else’, etc. And only in a few instances, out of dozens of responses, have EA commenters addressed the substance of what I wrote.