Emerson approaches me to ask if I can set up the trip. I tell him I really need the vacation day for myself. He says something like “but organizing stuff is fun for you!”.
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She kept insisting that I’m saying that because I’m being silly and worry too much and that buying weed is really easy, everybody does it.
😬 There’s a ton of awful stuff here, but these two parts really jumped out at me. Trying to push past someone’s boundaries by imposing a narrative about the type of person they are (‘but you’re the type of person who loves doing X!’ ‘you’re only saying no because you’re the type of person who worries too much’) is really unsettling behavior.
I’ll flag that this is an old remembered anecdote, and those can be unreliable, and I haven’t heard Emerson or Kat’s version of events. But it updates me, because Chloe seems like a pretty good source and this puzzle piece seems congruent with the other puzzle pieces.
E.g., the vibe here matches something that creeped me out a lot about Kat’s text message to Alice in the OP, which is the apparent attempt to corner/railroad Alice into agreement via a bunch of threats and strongly imposed frames, followed immediately by Kat repeatedly stating as fact that Alice will of course agree with Kat: “[we] expect you will do the same moving forward”, “Sounds like you’ve come to the same conclusion”, “It sounds like we’re now on the same page about this”.
Working and living with Nonlinear had me forget who I was, and lose more self worth than I had ever lost in my life. I wasn’t able to read books anymore, nor keep my focus in meetings for longer than 2 minutes, I couldn’t process my own thoughts or anything that took more than a few minutes of paying attention.
😬 There’s a ton of awful stuff here, but these two parts really jumped out at me. Trying to push past someone’s boundaries by imposing a narrative about the type of person they are (‘but you’re the type of person who loves doing X!’ ‘you’re only saying no because you’re the type of person who worries too much’) is really unsettling behavior.
I’ll flag that this is an old remembered anecdote, and those can be unreliable, and I haven’t heard Emerson or Kat’s version of events. But it updates me, because Chloe seems like a pretty good source and this puzzle piece seems congruent with the other puzzle pieces.
E.g., the vibe here matches something that creeped me out a lot about Kat’s text message to Alice in the OP, which is the apparent attempt to corner/railroad Alice into agreement via a bunch of threats and strongly imposed frames, followed immediately by Kat repeatedly stating as fact that Alice will of course agree with Kat: “[we] expect you will do the same moving forward”, “Sounds like you’ve come to the same conclusion”, “It sounds like we’re now on the same page about this”.
😢 Jesus.