I sense a continuum here. From the warm glow to resentment or bitterness, with various stages of “good” and “bad” feelings along the continuum. I have no problem with give until in hurts, if the hurt is that I have to deny myself something relatively unimportant or delay gratification for something. For example handing my brown bag lunch to a hungry homeless person is painful, especially once the hunger sets in, but I realize that my hunger is much less than his. This certainly won’t make me angry or bitter. The challenge is for each of us to find our own place along this continuum.
I sense a continuum here. From the warm glow to resentment or bitterness, with various stages of “good” and “bad” feelings along the continuum. I have no problem with give until in hurts, if the hurt is that I have to deny myself something relatively unimportant or delay gratification for something. For example handing my brown bag lunch to a hungry homeless person is painful, especially once the hunger sets in, but I realize that my hunger is much less than his. This certainly won’t make me angry or bitter. The challenge is for each of us to find our own place along this continuum.