Suppose I am considering saying something mean about someone in a context where they won’t hear me, and I would be unwilling to say the same thing to their face. I have a hard time with this in general. But there are cases where it is OK according to this heuristic (when they’d be fine knowing that I would say that kind of thing about them under those conditions), and I think those are the cases that I endorse-on-reflection.
Suppose I am considering saying something mean about someone in a context where they won’t hear me, and I would be unwilling to say the same thing to their face. I have a hard time with this in general. But there are cases where it is OK according to this heuristic (when they’d be fine knowing that I would say that kind of thing about them under those conditions), and I think those are the cases that I endorse-on-reflection.