This is so perceptive, relevant and respectfully written, thank you.
people on “both sides” feel in the minority and fighting against a more powerful majority
I’ve noticed this too and I think another common dynamic is where “both sides” feel like the other side obviously “started it” and so feel justified in responding in kind.
I’ve also noticed in myself recently this additional layer of upset that sounds something like, “We’re supposed to be allies!” I think I need to keep reminding myself that this is just what people do, namely fight with people very much like them but a little bit different*. I think EA’s been remarkably good at avoiding much of this over the years and obviously I wish we weren’t falling prey to it quite so much right now, but I don’t think it’s a reason to feel extra upset.
*Here’s my favourite dramatisation of this phenomenon.
This is so perceptive, relevant and respectfully written, thank you.
I’ve noticed this too and I think another common dynamic is where “both sides” feel like the other side obviously “started it” and so feel justified in responding in kind.
I’ve also noticed in myself recently this additional layer of upset that sounds something like, “We’re supposed to be allies!” I think I need to keep reminding myself that this is just what people do, namely fight with people very much like them but a little bit different*. I think EA’s been remarkably good at avoiding much of this over the years and obviously I wish we weren’t falling prey to it quite so much right now, but I don’t think it’s a reason to feel extra upset.
*Here’s my favourite dramatisation of this phenomenon.