I understand that some people define it this way, but it’s use is definitely not limited to that narrow conception.
Yep, different people can use the same term in different ways. In this case, a charitable reading might take the focus off of the ambiguous term “social justice warrior” and look for other clues as to what Dale is trying to communicate: Dale refers to people who “give you a lot of flak for your race, gender, career success”, are “hostile”, and participate in “tweetstorms of hate”. On the other hand, you are someone who advocates people “not being dicks to each other”, which sounds totally different (and you also seem to be doing a decent job of putting this ideal in to practice). So I don’t think you need to feel excluded by Dale’s comment :)
Yep, different people can use the same term in different ways. In this case, a charitable reading might take the focus off of the ambiguous term “social justice warrior” and look for other clues as to what Dale is trying to communicate: Dale refers to people who “give you a lot of flak for your race, gender, career success”, are “hostile”, and participate in “tweetstorms of hate”. On the other hand, you are someone who advocates people “not being dicks to each other”, which sounds totally different (and you also seem to be doing a decent job of putting this ideal in to practice). So I don’t think you need to feel excluded by Dale’s comment :)