As someone who fits into the trifecta I think it’s less about identities and more about upbringing / messaging associated with identities. I grew up in a family context with strong filial piety, respect for authority, lots of comparisons with other people which leads to feeling not good enough, EA is dismissed as something that’s stupid to do by “authority figures”.
I do think that I need to unlearn a lot from my family’s messaging. For me personally, I’d say it’s much more than 10-25% as a source of stress given how much I need to re-program my brain from all the messaging I received. I’d maybe say like 80%?
Agree it’s more about upbringing and messaging. And also relate a lot to this.
But also I think it’s really hard to tell the “cause” of any given problem at an individual level. As recently as a few years ago, I would have put 80% weight on upbringing / messaging (which I agree aren’t the identities themselves but something associated with them). Nowadays I’m more agnostic about it.
I think it’s fine to seek out affinity groups and culturally-relevant advice to some degree. But also, there’s a tradeoff between exploring identities versus applying generic mental health advice. Especially when you get to intersectionality-type stuff like trifectas where the number of things to explore is gets incredibly vast very quickly.
As someone who fits into the trifecta I think it’s less about identities and more about upbringing / messaging associated with identities. I grew up in a family context with strong filial piety, respect for authority, lots of comparisons with other people which leads to feeling not good enough, EA is dismissed as something that’s stupid to do by “authority figures”.
I do think that I need to unlearn a lot from my family’s messaging. For me personally, I’d say it’s much more than 10-25% as a source of stress given how much I need to re-program my brain from all the messaging I received. I’d maybe say like 80%?
Agree it’s more about upbringing and messaging. And also relate a lot to this.
But also I think it’s really hard to tell the “cause” of any given problem at an individual level. As recently as a few years ago, I would have put 80% weight on upbringing / messaging (which I agree aren’t the identities themselves but something associated with them). Nowadays I’m more agnostic about it.
I think it’s fine to seek out affinity groups and culturally-relevant advice to some degree. But also, there’s a tradeoff between exploring identities versus applying generic mental health advice. Especially when you get to intersectionality-type stuff like trifectas where the number of things to explore is gets incredibly vast very quickly.
thank you both for sharing your perspectives! :)