Wow, I love that you ended your post in questions. I found your thesis compelling; it reminded me of how much value I used to get from more actively networking with and reaching out to people in online EA spaces. Also, I loved that it was short and salient.
What helps you ask for help when it feels uncomfortable?
Knowing relevant people who have signaled they are okay being asked for help on a given topic. Having a personalish connection to people. A lack of fear of stigma or social consequence for asking a dumb question that I shouldnât have needed help with. A sense of worthiness that I am even allowed to ask things of other people in this context.
When was the last time you asked for help, and what happened?
I ask for help multiple times every day. I am a working stiff and my day job is bench work as a technician in a clinical diagnostics lab (microbiology department). I ask the more senior technicians and medical directors for advice constantly, multiple times a day. That usually goes well and people either give me some kind of answer or at least tell me who to ask. The main downside is that it can take up my time and tbh sometimes they donât give me great advice.
Also I ask my wife for help with all the time and that goes great because they are an amazing partner that I am lucky to have! :) I love my wife!
Hey Jacob, thanks a lot for reading and your comment!
I relate to your answers, especially about the person signalling that itâs ok to come to them with certain questions or ask for help. My own favourite is âHave a low bar for reaching outâ which has worked in some cases.
And also funny that people donât give that great of advice! I have found that itâs worth asking for advice sometimes just to see if there is anything you donât know, and if you keep hearing the same advice from experts it means you may have heard most of what you need to know.
Can totally relate to asking your partner for help, I find that my husband has great judgement even on work things even though he doesnât work in the movement and doesnât have a similar job.
Wow, I love that you ended your post in questions. I found your thesis compelling; it reminded me of how much value I used to get from more actively networking with and reaching out to people in online EA spaces. Also, I loved that it was short and salient.
What helps you ask for help when it feels uncomfortable?
Knowing relevant people who have signaled they are okay being asked for help on a given topic. Having a personalish connection to people. A lack of fear of stigma or social consequence for asking a dumb question that I shouldnât have needed help with. A sense of worthiness that I am even allowed to ask things of other people in this context.
When was the last time you asked for help, and what happened?
I ask for help multiple times every day. I am a working stiff and my day job is bench work as a technician in a clinical diagnostics lab (microbiology department). I ask the more senior technicians and medical directors for advice constantly, multiple times a day. That usually goes well and people either give me some kind of answer or at least tell me who to ask. The main downside is that it can take up my time and tbh sometimes they donât give me great advice.
Also I ask my wife for help with all the time and that goes great because they are an amazing partner that I am lucky to have! :) I love my wife!
Hey Jacob, thanks a lot for reading and your comment!
I relate to your answers, especially about the person signalling that itâs ok to come to them with certain questions or ask for help. My own favourite is âHave a low bar for reaching outâ which has worked in some cases.
And also funny that people donât give that great of advice! I have found that itâs worth asking for advice sometimes just to see if there is anything you donât know, and if you keep hearing the same advice from experts it means you may have heard most of what you need to know.
Can totally relate to asking your partner for help, I find that my husband has great judgement even on work things even though he doesnât work in the movement and doesnât have a similar job.