I mostly disagreed based on “I would much rather trust and provide emotional support to someone who later turns out to have been lying than to question—even subtly—the legitimacy of someone who has suffered sexual abuse.”, which feels dangerous to me personally if it were adopted as a community norm. do appreciate the general spirit of attempting to help though.
I would much rather trust and provide emotional support to someone who later turns out to have been lying than to question—even subtly—the legitimacy of someone who has suffered sexual abuse.
I did not see how this in any way implies “I do not support the appropriate authorities from investigating whether the report is a lie” which is the only problematic scenario here.
Not immediately grilling the victim on the legitimacy of their claim when they are opening up to you about a traumatic event and instead providing emotional support makes a lot of sense to me. The cost to me of providing emotional support to a non-victim is low and the cost of immediately being challenged on truthfulness to a real victim is very high.
I mostly disagreed based on “I would much rather trust and provide emotional support to someone who later turns out to have been lying than to question—even subtly—the legitimacy of someone who has suffered sexual abuse.”, which feels dangerous to me personally if it were adopted as a community norm. do appreciate the general spirit of attempting to help though.
I did not see how this in any way implies “I do not support the appropriate authorities from investigating whether the report is a lie” which is the only problematic scenario here.
Not immediately grilling the victim on the legitimacy of their claim when they are opening up to you about a traumatic event and instead providing emotional support makes a lot of sense to me. The cost to me of providing emotional support to a non-victim is low and the cost of immediately being challenged on truthfulness to a real victim is very high.