BTW, I’m wondering if a good heuristic is: If someone makes a lot of accusations, they’re likely to be a liar. If someone receives a lot of accusations, they’re likely to be guilty. The idea being that genuine victimhood (from a crime/false accusation) happens to people at a fairly even background rate, but people who are bad actors tend misbehave more than once.
In my personal experience talking to victims since, I’ve noticed that this is one of the most scary heuristics of all. Every woman I’ve spoken to in this community who comes forth about SA once feels like they are now more than twice as vulnerable for being targeted by predators.
Very personally, several of my house co-founder’s friends had an intentionally loud conversation outside my door about unfortunate things that might happen to “girls who cry wolf” since nobody will believe them on subsequent claims.
BTW, I’m wondering if a good heuristic is: If someone makes a lot of accusations, they’re likely to be a liar. If someone receives a lot of accusations, they’re likely to be guilty. The idea being that genuine victimhood (from a crime/false accusation) happens to people at a fairly even background rate, but people who are bad actors tend misbehave more than once.
In my personal experience talking to victims since, I’ve noticed that this is one of the most scary heuristics of all. Every woman I’ve spoken to in this community who comes forth about SA once feels like they are now more than twice as vulnerable for being targeted by predators.
Very personally, several of my house co-founder’s friends had an intentionally loud conversation outside my door about unfortunate things that might happen to “girls who cry wolf” since nobody will believe them on subsequent claims.
That’s horrifying, sorry to hear about it
wait, what? how do we know this?
I underwent a palpable shock at this factoid, it was unexpected, while also being sad etc.