And I hope that Aurora Quinn-Elmore, if this depiction of her is accurate, sees her mediation work dry up.
For what it’s worth, prior to reading this article, I knew Aurora by reputation as someone who was aggressively feminist. I remember having a conversation with a [edit: conservative-leaning] woman at a party who told me something like: “I tried to have a discussion with Aurora about consent, and I wasn’t able to get through to her. You might want to avoid kissing her or anything like that, to stay on the safe side.”
Needless to say, this leaves me feeling fairly confused about what’s actually going on.
I guess I don’t even really understand her relevance. Fully a third of the TIME article is about her mediation in an EA house, and makes her bad behaviour out to be emblematic of problems at the core of EA, but she’s… just some random person, right?
From some online digging: she’s listed as an attendee at EA Global 2016. She appeared on the Clearer Thinking podcast in 2021. She’s never posted on the EA Forum or LessWrong, at least not under her own name that I can find. Her relationship with EA seems at the most to be very, very slight. Am I missing something about her relevance in this whole thing?
I have had a terrible mediation experience with her where she was friends with the other party and not friends with me. This tracks with the Time Mag reporting where she did a mediation while dating one of the parties. Do not let her mediate anything. I saw once that she specializes in or was looking to help survivors of sexual assault. Stay away from this person.
This tracks with the Time Mag reporting where she did a mediation while dating one of the parties.
Maybe? The article has ” Quinn-Elmore told TIME, adding that although she spoke to both parties and recommended a path forward, she didnt consider this to be an official mediation.”
I think that sometimes when someone has a good experience with a mediator they doubt that it’s possible for other people to have bad experiences. Also Aurora is actually on this forum and messaged me to ask if I wanted to do a session so she can listen to the impact she’s had on me and I absolutely do not. If you mention that you had a negative experience with her, she might message you too, so watch out.
Yup, and specifically in Aurora’s case, low ability to empathize with others who aren’t her friends, and low ability to recognize that she should not be mediating a situation where she’s friends or dating one of the parties and not close with the other.
For what it’s worth, prior to reading this article, I knew Aurora by reputation as someone who was aggressively feminist. I remember having a conversation with a [edit: conservative-leaning] woman at a party who told me something like: “I tried to have a discussion with Aurora about consent, and I wasn’t able to get through to her. You might want to avoid kissing her or anything like that, to stay on the safe side.”
Needless to say, this leaves me feeling fairly confused about what’s actually going on.
I guess I don’t even really understand her relevance. Fully a third of the TIME article is about her mediation in an EA house, and makes her bad behaviour out to be emblematic of problems at the core of EA, but she’s… just some random person, right?
From some online digging: she’s listed as an attendee at EA Global 2016. She appeared on the Clearer Thinking podcast in 2021. She’s never posted on the EA Forum or LessWrong, at least not under her own name that I can find. Her relationship with EA seems at the most to be very, very slight. Am I missing something about her relevance in this whole thing?
I have had a terrible mediation experience with her where she was friends with the other party and not friends with me. This tracks with the Time Mag reporting where she did a mediation while dating one of the parties. Do not let her mediate anything. I saw once that she specializes in or was looking to help survivors of sexual assault. Stay away from this person.
Maybe? The article has ” Quinn-Elmore told TIME, adding that although she spoke to both parties and recommended a path forward, she didnt consider this to be an official mediation.”
This comment is currently at −6 agreement votes. Does anyone want to explain to me why this is so?
I think that sometimes when someone has a good experience with a mediator they doubt that it’s possible for other people to have bad experiences. Also Aurora is actually on this forum and messaged me to ask if I wanted to do a session so she can listen to the impact she’s had on me and I absolutely do not. If you mention that you had a negative experience with her, she might message you too, so watch out.
I suppose “low ability to empathize with the perspectives of others” could be a unifying thread here.
[edit: or maybe annoying everyone equally shows you’re doing a good job?]
Yup, and specifically in Aurora’s case, low ability to empathize with others who aren’t her friends, and low ability to recognize that she should not be mediating a situation where she’s friends or dating one of the parties and not close with the other.