Executive summary: The author offers a reflective, practical loving-kindness meditation tailored for effective altruists who struggle with self-compassion, arguing that cultivating joy and care for oneself—via an age-progression practice starting with one’s younger self—is both psychologically necessary and compatible with serious moral commitment.
Key points:
The author argues that many EAs find self-compassion difficult because moral urgency and perceived shadow costs make rest and joy feel illegitimate.
They propose an age-progression loving-kindness practice that begins with offering care to one’s younger self rather than oneself in the present.
The practice involves moving through different childhood ages until reaching an “edge,” where warmth or care becomes difficult, and treating that resistance as the core of the work.
The author suggests meeting the younger self at this edge with presence and curiosity, allowing grief, anger, protectiveness, or numbness to arise without trying to fix them.
They recommend integrating the practice through a recurring sit-write-walk cycle, weekly frequency, and optional accountability with others.
The author argues that personal suffering is not helpful or morally required, and that becoming more joyful and alive supports both individual functioning and collective effectiveness.
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Executive summary: The author offers a reflective, practical loving-kindness meditation tailored for effective altruists who struggle with self-compassion, arguing that cultivating joy and care for oneself—via an age-progression practice starting with one’s younger self—is both psychologically necessary and compatible with serious moral commitment.
Key points:
The author argues that many EAs find self-compassion difficult because moral urgency and perceived shadow costs make rest and joy feel illegitimate.
They propose an age-progression loving-kindness practice that begins with offering care to one’s younger self rather than oneself in the present.
The practice involves moving through different childhood ages until reaching an “edge,” where warmth or care becomes difficult, and treating that resistance as the core of the work.
The author suggests meeting the younger self at this edge with presence and curiosity, allowing grief, anger, protectiveness, or numbness to arise without trying to fix them.
They recommend integrating the practice through a recurring sit-write-walk cycle, weekly frequency, and optional accountability with others.
The author argues that personal suffering is not helpful or morally required, and that becoming more joyful and alive supports both individual functioning and collective effectiveness.
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