Frankly, your experience resonates with me, but your suggested solutions don’t seem like the only way to me and seem like they would come with many downsides. I have experienced unpleasant dynamics around poly-heavy EA hubs and had a bad trial experience with polyamory myself (leading to a resounding return to monogamy). I think sexual competitiveness mixed with professional competition in the Bay is toxic, and I think the never-ending series of sexual conquests for high status people is a pretty huge distraction from work.
But I wouldn’t take away anyone’s freedom to be part of it. I think that enough open talk about experiences like yours could help lead to a voluntary shift.
Frankly, your experience resonates with me, but your suggested solutions don’t seem like the only way to me and seem like they would come with many downsides. I have experienced unpleasant dynamics around poly-heavy EA hubs and had a bad trial experience with polyamory myself (leading to a resounding return to monogamy). I think sexual competitiveness mixed with professional competition in the Bay is toxic, and I think the never-ending series of sexual conquests for high status people is a pretty huge distraction from work.
But I wouldn’t take away anyone’s freedom to be part of it. I think that enough open talk about experiences like yours could help lead to a voluntary shift.