For the times when I have been done wrong to, I would have been really happy if the injuring party had been as reflective, genuinely self-critical and (from what I can see) steadfast in trying to do better as you are.
From what I can tell, you didn’t have to “out” yourself for this. I respect the move to do this and to make amends and doing so (from what it seems) with the person you wronged. It’s impressive that (from what it seems) they’re keen to see things put right and giving you some support in this regard (if only fact checking this post).
I’ve more often felt like the younger woman in this scenario did. But the depths of your reflections Owen are leading me to think more critically about how I can be careless / flippant from my relative position of power and how that would make others feel.
Whether someone has had a big fuck up or minor infractions, I think this stuff is life long learning. There is no simple algorithm (though some guidelines, always evolving); diversity of people and emotional world’s mean that it’s just hard work to understand other people better, and not become complacent or over-confident when you think you’re doing is well or dismissive and derisive if you’re dismayed by lack of success.
From what I can tell, you didn’t have to “out” yourself for this.
This might not be true. Effective Ventures’s statement on the matter says that they were informed of this by Julia Wise, so at least they knew, and it’s possible that someone would have outed him more publicly had he not done so himself.
For the times when I have been done wrong to, I would have been really happy if the injuring party had been as reflective, genuinely self-critical and (from what I can see) steadfast in trying to do better as you are.
From what I can tell, you didn’t have to “out” yourself for this. I respect the move to do this and to make amends and doing so (from what it seems) with the person you wronged. It’s impressive that (from what it seems) they’re keen to see things put right and giving you some support in this regard (if only fact checking this post).
I’ve more often felt like the younger woman in this scenario did. But the depths of your reflections Owen are leading me to think more critically about how I can be careless / flippant from my relative position of power and how that would make others feel.
Whether someone has had a big fuck up or minor infractions, I think this stuff is life long learning. There is no simple algorithm (though some guidelines, always evolving); diversity of people and emotional world’s mean that it’s just hard work to understand other people better, and not become complacent or over-confident when you think you’re doing is well or dismissive and derisive if you’re dismayed by lack of success.
This might not be true. Effective Ventures’s statement on the matter says that they were informed of this by Julia Wise, so at least they knew, and it’s possible that someone would have outed him more publicly had he not done so himself.
Right, I think it would have been perilous for the board not to remove Owen with a statutory inquiry by the Charity Commission already underway.