“she recalls being surprised to discover that she was expected to stay in his home” seems to preclude the notion that Cotton-Barratt asked her first, so I’m not sure why you’re writing as if we’re not clear whether they discussed it beforehand.
Sorry I’m on mobile and it’s hard for me to see exactly how my comment comes off in the scheme of larger discussion. I agree it sounds like he didn’t ask her first. My main intention with my comment was to say that his treatment of that situation seems qualitatively related to the idea that he needs to address power dynamics and find clarity more proactively.
[[Edit: That said I can come up with an exchange where he would consider himself to have asked. I don’t really want to theorize this as likely to have happened, but maybe it can illustrate why I try to speak hesitantly about the actions people might or might not have taken. Example dialogue:
Owen: So normally in this situation I’d just host the interviewee at my place rather than having people faff around with a hotel. Is that cool here?
Woman: (thinking: damn that’s expected huh? Im surprised) um I guess so
My second paragraph appears to go off on a tangent but I was actually thinking in response to a potential exchange like this and trying to get ahead of anyone who might think that asking would always be good enough. I’m not necessarily ensorsing asking as a singular plan though I’d probably do it myself in some situations. The only sure solution is the solution that Owen appears to be taking, more proactivity and avoid these dynamics when possible anyway]]
Yes, that is one possible explanation for the sentence. There are also other, more problematic possible explanations, such as if the org itself told her they had a place for her and then sprung the surprise that it was at Owen’s house.
I tried to avoid speculation like this with my original comment because we can just ask what happened. We don’t need to make up stories, we can just find out what actually happened from the OP and the woman and put the matter to rest.
Yes I agree and I do hope someone who knows chimes in. I waited hours to comment here hoping someone else would, but in the hours I waited the original comment got over 60 more upvotes. It seemed like a growing and urgent concern for people, and I was becoming less confident that Owen or the woman would chime in in a timely manner.
I commented in parentheses to try to imply I was just dropping in, but now I really regret not writing something like: “I’ll delete this comment once someone who knows more actually clarifies it”
“she recalls being surprised to discover that she was expected to stay in his home” seems to preclude the notion that Cotton-Barratt asked her first, so I’m not sure why you’re writing as if we’re not clear whether they discussed it beforehand.
Sorry I’m on mobile and it’s hard for me to see exactly how my comment comes off in the scheme of larger discussion. I agree it sounds like he didn’t ask her first. My main intention with my comment was to say that his treatment of that situation seems qualitatively related to the idea that he needs to address power dynamics and find clarity more proactively.
[[Edit: That said I can come up with an exchange where he would consider himself to have asked. I don’t really want to theorize this as likely to have happened, but maybe it can illustrate why I try to speak hesitantly about the actions people might or might not have taken. Example dialogue:
Owen: So normally in this situation I’d just host the interviewee at my place rather than having people faff around with a hotel. Is that cool here?
Woman: (thinking: damn that’s expected huh? Im surprised) um I guess so
My second paragraph appears to go off on a tangent but I was actually thinking in response to a potential exchange like this and trying to get ahead of anyone who might think that asking would always be good enough. I’m not necessarily ensorsing asking as a singular plan though I’d probably do it myself in some situations. The only sure solution is the solution that Owen appears to be taking, more proactivity and avoid these dynamics when possible anyway]]
Yes, that is one possible explanation for the sentence. There are also other, more problematic possible explanations, such as if the org itself told her they had a place for her and then sprung the surprise that it was at Owen’s house.
I tried to avoid speculation like this with my original comment because we can just ask what happened. We don’t need to make up stories, we can just find out what actually happened from the OP and the woman and put the matter to rest.
Yes I agree and I do hope someone who knows chimes in. I waited hours to comment here hoping someone else would, but in the hours I waited the original comment got over 60 more upvotes. It seemed like a growing and urgent concern for people, and I was becoming less confident that Owen or the woman would chime in in a timely manner.
I commented in parentheses to try to imply I was just dropping in, but now I really regret not writing something like: “I’ll delete this comment once someone who knows more actually clarifies it”