I get the impression you are trying hard to do good here, and I appreciate that. I also find this comment extremely disheartening, as even a thoughtful attempt to try to work through the harm of this behavior minimizes the harm and leaves out a big portion of the harm. I’m guessing many, many others in EA share a similar perspective to you, and that is just bumming me out right now. I love so many parts of EA, but I’m being reminded about how, as a women, my entire existence will be swimming uphill against these sorts of perspectives. It’s demoralizing to me, and even though I found the original TIME piece to be extremely uncharitable, I also newly believe that oppressive perspectives about gender and a failure to recognize these perspectives is a major contributor to why the gender ratio is so imbalanced.
I’m not saying you in particular are bad here, or that you are particularly bad. I see that you are being very thoughtful and trying to work through this. It’s just disheartening to see someone who is so thoughtful and operating in good faith still continue—in my view—to get it wrong. I know that this is inevitable in communities, but I also do not enjoy the process of going up against this sort of thing. My impulse is just to go seek refuge and security in a group that understands this sort of thing more, likely a group of mostly women.
For my explanation (though I could’ve gone into more detail) about the harm done, see this comment I made in reply to another one of your comments.
This is a pretty emotional comment, and I’m not sharing to make you feel bad or anything. Or even to say that you’re wrong to share your explanation. I’m sharing my emotional response to your comment to help people imagine what is maybe a cause for the gender imbalance/women feeling demoralized about EA.
I get the impression you are trying hard to do good here, and I appreciate that. I also find this comment extremely disheartening, as even a thoughtful attempt to try to work through the harm of this behavior minimizes the harm and leaves out a big portion of the harm. I’m guessing many, many others in EA share a similar perspective to you, and that is just bumming me out right now. I love so many parts of EA, but I’m being reminded about how, as a women, my entire existence will be swimming uphill against these sorts of perspectives. It’s demoralizing to me, and even though I found the original TIME piece to be extremely uncharitable, I also newly believe that oppressive perspectives about gender and a failure to recognize these perspectives is a major contributor to why the gender ratio is so imbalanced.
I’m not saying you in particular are bad here, or that you are particularly bad. I see that you are being very thoughtful and trying to work through this. It’s just disheartening to see someone who is so thoughtful and operating in good faith still continue—in my view—to get it wrong. I know that this is inevitable in communities, but I also do not enjoy the process of going up against this sort of thing. My impulse is just to go seek refuge and security in a group that understands this sort of thing more, likely a group of mostly women.
For my explanation (though I could’ve gone into more detail) about the harm done, see this comment I made in reply to another one of your comments.
This is a pretty emotional comment, and I’m not sharing to make you feel bad or anything. Or even to say that you’re wrong to share your explanation. I’m sharing my emotional response to your comment to help people imagine what is maybe a cause for the gender imbalance/women feeling demoralized about EA.