Thanks for the post—I really appreciated hearing a perspective in favour of this overlap!
I just wanted to elaborate a bit on how “conflict of interest”, “missing opportunities” and “all eggs in one basket” can come together to make the experience especially harmful.
In particular, if you face interpersonal issues (or worse e.g. harassment etc.) from someone who is in the same social graph (professionally and socially) as you, you’re put in a very tricky spot. As you acknowledge, it is in fact how it works that if you aren’t plugged into the social community, you will miss out on opportunities. It is also the case that many of your friends will be in the same social graph.
Thus you may be put in a position where you have to trade-off having less impact and not attending social events which all of your friends attend, versus your personal happiness and safety. While I think this possibility is very much implicit in your comments, I thought it might be useful to highlight it, because I think in practice this pressure to associate socially is very strong and therefore can be very damaging in the especially egregious cases of interpersonal issues within the community.
Thanks for the post—I really appreciated hearing a perspective in favour of this overlap!
I just wanted to elaborate a bit on how “conflict of interest”, “missing opportunities” and “all eggs in one basket” can come together to make the experience especially harmful.
In particular, if you face interpersonal issues (or worse e.g. harassment etc.) from someone who is in the same social graph (professionally and socially) as you, you’re put in a very tricky spot. As you acknowledge, it is in fact how it works that if you aren’t plugged into the social community, you will miss out on opportunities. It is also the case that many of your friends will be in the same social graph.
Thus you may be put in a position where you have to trade-off having less impact and not attending social events which all of your friends attend, versus your personal happiness and safety. While I think this possibility is very much implicit in your comments, I thought it might be useful to highlight it, because I think in practice this pressure to associate socially is very strong and therefore can be very damaging in the especially egregious cases of interpersonal issues within the community.