I guess I’m sceptical that there is really “soft norm” pressure to date one’s co-workers (except inasmuch as there is less of a norm not to date one’s co-workers, but that’s different). Like, do people really think (implicitly or explicitly) “I’ll do better at work if I date this person, so I’m going to date them (whether or not I like them)”? This seems very weird to me. I’d find it really hard to date someone for a long time if I wasn’t actually into them.
I guess I’m sceptical that there is really “soft norm” pressure to date one’s co-workers (except inasmuch as there is less of a norm not to date one’s co-workers, but that’s different). Like, do people really think (implicitly or explicitly) “I’ll do better at work if I date this person, so I’m going to date them (whether or not I like them)”? This seems very weird to me. I’d find it really hard to date someone for a long time if I wasn’t actually into them.