I think the specifics of what I’ve written here can be collapsed into the general point “rules have both costs and benefits; make sure you take the time to pay attention to both”. This just gives a certain type of benefit people can pay attention to.
Two additional thoughts since posting:
I think the specifics of what I’ve written here can be collapsed into the general point “rules have both costs and benefits; make sure you take the time to pay attention to both”. This just gives a certain type of benefit people can pay attention to.
As per Stefan’s post, people are much more incentivised to be strategically kind (and perhaps by extension strategically inclusive?) than the opposite. Adding new rules won’t necessarily make you seem more likeable! https://stefanfschubert.com/blog/2023/4/19/strategic-disagreeableness-is-uncommon