I’ll reiterate that I’m not saying being poly is bad or that you should have to stop being poly if you want to be in EA. The point is closer to “don’t dip your pen in the company ink” (though not that extreme) than “don’t dip your pen at all”.
The main communities where I want to date are EA and EA-adjacent ones, though. It’s not much of a concession if I can only be poly with outsiders I tend to not be interested in, and not with people from this well-selected, higher baseline compatibility population.
I’ll reiterate that I’m not saying being poly is bad or that you should have to stop being poly if you want to be in EA. The point is closer to “don’t dip your pen in the company ink” (though not that extreme) than “don’t dip your pen at all”.
The main communities where I want to date are EA and EA-adjacent ones, though. It’s not much of a concession if I can only be poly with outsiders I tend to not be interested in, and not with people from this well-selected, higher baseline compatibility population.