i meant mostly about how you can get a larger sample size of what possible relationships can look like before (say) committing to monogamy. (I suspect polyamory is even better in this respect). and especially when you’re young you might not have a good sense of how to select people in the first place and love can be pretty dumb about these things.
although more relaxed social norms about talking about such things also helps and has positive externalities for the people more inclined to be ~prudish
but anecdotally given there’s a tail of people who keep getting into these relationships again and again, i think the relationship-expectation thing is really important
i meant mostly about how you can get a larger sample size of what possible relationships can look like before (say) committing to monogamy. (I suspect polyamory is even better in this respect).
and especially when you’re young you might not have a good sense of how to select people in the first place and love can be pretty dumb about these things.
although more relaxed social norms about talking about such things also helps and has positive externalities for the people more inclined to be ~prudish
but anecdotally given there’s a tail of people who keep getting into these relationships again and again, i think the relationship-expectation thing is really important