Great post. This put words to some vague concerns I’ve had lately with people valorizing “agent-y” characteristics. I’m agentic in some ways and very unagentic in other ways, and I’m mostly happy with my impact, reputation, and “social footprint”. I like your section on not regulating consumption of finite resources: I think that modeling all aspects of a community as a free market is really bad (I think you agree with this, at least directionally).
This post, especially the section on “Assuming that it is low-cost for others to say ‘no’ to requests” reminded me of Deborah Tannen’s book That’s Not What I Meant — How Conversational Style Makes or Breaks Relationships. I found it really enlightening, and I’d recommend it for help understanding the unexpected ways other people approach social interactions.
Great post. This put words to some vague concerns I’ve had lately with people valorizing “agent-y” characteristics. I’m agentic in some ways and very unagentic in other ways, and I’m mostly happy with my impact, reputation, and “social footprint”. I like your section on not regulating consumption of finite resources: I think that modeling all aspects of a community as a free market is really bad (I think you agree with this, at least directionally).
This post, especially the section on “Assuming that it is low-cost for others to say ‘no’ to requests” reminded me of Deborah Tannen’s book That’s Not What I Meant — How Conversational Style Makes or Breaks Relationships. I found it really enlightening, and I’d recommend it for help understanding the unexpected ways other people approach social interactions.