I don’t think I ever got the sense-even intuitively or in a low-fidelity way- that “agency” was identical to/implied/strongly overlapped with “a willingness to be social domineering or extractive of others’ time and energy”
I wrote about this because it was the direction in which I noticed myself taking “be agentic” too far. It’s also based on what I’ve observed in the community and conversations I’ve had over the past few months. But I would expect people to “take the message too far” in different ways (obvs whether someone has taken it too far is subjective, but you know what I mean).
But what you wrote seems to imply that there was no functional or causally attributable harm to anyone from your missing school.
Yeah, nobody was harmed, and I do endorse that I did it. It did feel like a big cost that my teachers trusted/liked me less though.
Note that I was a bit reluctant to include the school example, because there’s lots of missing context, so it’s not conveying the full situation. But the main point was that doing unconventional stuff can make people mad, and this can feel bad and has costs.
Thanks for your comment Aaron! :)
I wrote about this because it was the direction in which I noticed myself taking “be agentic” too far. It’s also based on what I’ve observed in the community and conversations I’ve had over the past few months. But I would expect people to “take the message too far” in different ways (obvs whether someone has taken it too far is subjective, but you know what I mean).
Yeah, nobody was harmed, and I do endorse that I did it. It did feel like a big cost that my teachers trusted/liked me less though.
Note that I was a bit reluctant to include the school example, because there’s lots of missing context, so it’s not conveying the full situation. But the main point was that doing unconventional stuff can make people mad, and this can feel bad and has costs.