Bernadette makes some good criticisms, and I’ve updated my piece in response. I now put the opportunity-cost figure around $100K of present value, which seems low but not obviously too low if much of the parenting time is not “work.” I also changed the opportunity cost from being about extra income to being about how much you value what you would have been doing instead.
Individual differences seem big here. While there are some people like Bernadette and Julia who give extensive thought to this issue, there are others who don’t actually care about kids as much but just go along with social custom, spousal pressure, or the results of carelessness with birth control. It’s this latter group that my piece is mainly intended to speak to. I don’t know the relative proportions of different types of people in the population.
Bernadette makes some good criticisms, and I’ve updated my piece in response. I now put the opportunity-cost figure around $100K of present value, which seems low but not obviously too low if much of the parenting time is not “work.” I also changed the opportunity cost from being about extra income to being about how much you value what you would have been doing instead.
Individual differences seem big here. While there are some people like Bernadette and Julia who give extensive thought to this issue, there are others who don’t actually care about kids as much but just go along with social custom, spousal pressure, or the results of carelessness with birth control. It’s this latter group that my piece is mainly intended to speak to. I don’t know the relative proportions of different types of people in the population.