To give a concrete example, my (non-EA) ex was from Europe, and she had a relative who both didn’t like that she had two partners, and that I was non-white. My understanding was that the “poly” dimension was seen as substantially worse than the racial dimension. The relative’s attitude didn’t particularly affect our relationship much (we both thought it was kind of funny). But at least in Western countries, I think your bar on outing poly people who don’t want to be outed should be at least as high as your bar for outing interracial couples who don’t want to be outed, given the relative levels of antipathy people in Western countries have between the two.
To give a concrete example, my (non-EA) ex was from Europe, and she had a relative who both didn’t like that she had two partners, and that I was non-white. My understanding was that the “poly” dimension was seen as substantially worse than the racial dimension. The relative’s attitude didn’t particularly affect our relationship much (we both thought it was kind of funny). But at least in Western countries, I think your bar on outing poly people who don’t want to be outed should be at least as high as your bar for outing interracial couples who don’t want to be outed, given the relative levels of antipathy people in Western countries have between the two.
(I may want to delete this comment later).