I’m not completely sure what’s going on with Gleb, but I feel a great deal of concern for people with Asperger’s, and I think it made me overly sympathetic in this case. Thank you for this.
One thing to consider is that too much charity for Gleb is actively harmful for people with ASDs in the community.
If I am at a party of a trusted friend and know they’ve only invited people the trust, and someone hurts my feelings, I’m likely to ascribe it to a misunderstanding and talk it out with them. If I’m at a party where lots of people have been jerks to me before, and someone hurts my feelings, I’m likely to assume this person is a jerk too and withdraw.
By saying “I’m updating” and then committing the same problems again, Gleb is lessening the value of the words. He is teaching people it’s not worth correcting others, because they won’t change. This is most harmful to the people who most need the most direct feedback and the longest lead time to incorporate it.
Wow. More excellent arguments. More updates on my side. You’re on fire. I almost never meet people who can change my mind this much. I would like to add you as a friend.
I’m not completely sure what’s going on with Gleb, but I feel a great deal of concern for people with Asperger’s, and I think it made me overly sympathetic in this case. Thank you for this.
One thing to consider is that too much charity for Gleb is actively harmful for people with ASDs in the community.
If I am at a party of a trusted friend and know they’ve only invited people the trust, and someone hurts my feelings, I’m likely to ascribe it to a misunderstanding and talk it out with them. If I’m at a party where lots of people have been jerks to me before, and someone hurts my feelings, I’m likely to assume this person is a jerk too and withdraw.
By saying “I’m updating” and then committing the same problems again, Gleb is lessening the value of the words. He is teaching people it’s not worth correcting others, because they won’t change. This is most harmful to the people who most need the most direct feedback and the longest lead time to incorporate it.
Wow. More excellent arguments. More updates on my side. You’re on fire. I almost never meet people who can change my mind this much. I would like to add you as a friend.