Yeah I guess that’s probably the normal assumption, and likely what was meant. To me I’d think of the sentence for a gay person as more like “I’m now associated with Jeffrey Dahmer” or “I’m now associated with groomers”. Like that could totally be said in a gay space, and the sentence doesn’t require qualifiers of “not all gay people”, by virtue of being said in a gay-friendly space.
But yeah I guess this case doesn’t hold if someone who isn’t poly says it. And the majority of EAs are monogamous, likely OP too.
This thread is helping me realize that I’m still assuming that EAs aren’t judging poly people here, and that the EA Forum is still a safe space for poly people. I’ll keep this potential blindspot in my mind but keep giving benefit of the doubt for now. It’s not productive for me right now that I feel alienated regarding poly.
To be clear, I’m not making a claim about what EA-at-large feels. EA could be overall welcoming to poly people, and there still be occasional “poly people are gross” posts on the EA Forum (that end up at +0 ish karma rather than +100 ish karma). I just do think that “poly people are gross” is one part of what this post was expressing.
Yeah I guess that’s probably the normal assumption, and likely what was meant. To me I’d think of the sentence for a gay person as more like “I’m now associated with Jeffrey Dahmer” or “I’m now associated with groomers”. Like that could totally be said in a gay space, and the sentence doesn’t require qualifiers of “not all gay people”, by virtue of being said in a gay-friendly space.
But yeah I guess this case doesn’t hold if someone who isn’t poly says it. And the majority of EAs are monogamous, likely OP too.
This thread is helping me realize that I’m still assuming that EAs aren’t judging poly people here, and that the EA Forum is still a safe space for poly people. I’ll keep this potential blindspot in my mind but keep giving benefit of the doubt for now. It’s not productive for me right now that I feel alienated regarding poly.
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To be clear, I’m not making a claim about what EA-at-large feels. EA could be overall welcoming to poly people, and there still be occasional “poly people are gross” posts on the EA Forum (that end up at +0 ish karma rather than +100 ish karma). I just do think that “poly people are gross” is one part of what this post was expressing.