Be more willing to call out inappropriate, weird and/or off-putting behavior, and more willing to simply shut down certain types of people without needing to endlessly discuss or justify it. Be more willing to call obvious red flags as red flags.
I think the right approach is something like a legal trial: have a context devoted to figuring out if there was wrongdoing, then determine any punishment, then mete it out.
Concretely, this could look something like: “I propose we set a timer and discuss for X minutes. When it rings, we make a list of possible punishments, with ‘no punishment’ one item on the list, and use anonymized approval voting to determine which punishment is best.” (Note that in our legal system, the severity of punishment is often adjusted based on the amount of remorse displayed by the offender, and that seems good here too.)
Endless discussion seems bad, but assuming guilt or copy/pasting prevailing mainstream social norms also seems bad—prevailing mainstream social norms have often been wrong throughout history, and I doubt the present is an exception. (But Chesterton’s Fence applies—it’s good to try and understand the best arguments available for a mainstream social norm before disregarding it.)
I think the right approach is something like a legal trial: have a context devoted to figuring out if there was wrongdoing, then determine any punishment, then mete it out.
Concretely, this could look something like: “I propose we set a timer and discuss for X minutes. When it rings, we make a list of possible punishments, with ‘no punishment’ one item on the list, and use anonymized approval voting to determine which punishment is best.” (Note that in our legal system, the severity of punishment is often adjusted based on the amount of remorse displayed by the offender, and that seems good here too.)
Endless discussion seems bad, but assuming guilt or copy/pasting prevailing mainstream social norms also seems bad—prevailing mainstream social norms have often been wrong throughout history, and I doubt the present is an exception. (But Chesterton’s Fence applies—it’s good to try and understand the best arguments available for a mainstream social norm before disregarding it.)