I personally sometimes have an anger problem. Curiously it mostly happens is someone I love seems to be obviously wrong in a recurring way.
I believe part of the reason that I then sometimes get angry is that it may then seem that the person I love might be less worthy of my love because of their seemingly silly opinion or behaviour. At the same time, I then notice that such a thought of mine is itself silly, and that makes me angry at myself. But in such a situation, I can’t admit that I’m angry at myself, so I end up acting as if I was angry at the other person.
What a mess...
One thing that seems to help me most of the time is the buddhist “loving kindness” exercise, as for example explained here.
This is tremendously helpful!
I personally sometimes have an anger problem. Curiously it mostly happens is someone I love seems to be obviously wrong in a recurring way.
I believe part of the reason that I then sometimes get angry is that it may then seem that the person I love might be less worthy of my love because of their seemingly silly opinion or behaviour. At the same time, I then notice that such a thought of mine is itself silly, and that makes me angry at myself. But in such a situation, I can’t admit that I’m angry at myself, so I end up acting as if I was angry at the other person.
What a mess...
One thing that seems to help me most of the time is the buddhist “loving kindness” exercise, as for example explained here.