Great points Erica, thanks! I’ve been using very similar ways of thinking recently, actually, and it’s helped a lot.
One thing I’ve found, though, is that it’s easy to reflectively know that all of these points are true, but still not believe them on an emotional level, and so still find it difficult to make decisions. I think the main thing that’s helped me here is just time and persistence—I’m gradually coming to believe these things on a more gut level the more times I do just make a decision, even though I’m not certain, and it turns out ok. I think this is a classic situation where your system 2 can believe something, but your system 1 needs repeated experience of the thing actually happening—decisions you’re not certain of turning out ok, in this case—to really internalise it.
Great points Erica, thanks! I’ve been using very similar ways of thinking recently, actually, and it’s helped a lot.
One thing I’ve found, though, is that it’s easy to reflectively know that all of these points are true, but still not believe them on an emotional level, and so still find it difficult to make decisions. I think the main thing that’s helped me here is just time and persistence—I’m gradually coming to believe these things on a more gut level the more times I do just make a decision, even though I’m not certain, and it turns out ok. I think this is a classic situation where your system 2 can believe something, but your system 1 needs repeated experience of the thing actually happening—decisions you’re not certain of turning out ok, in this case—to really internalise it.