Neff’s book has been huge for my mental health. However, sometimes I find myself applying the self-compassion framework in a way that’s too formulaic, making it feel like a chore. (E.g., ’step 1: what would my best friend say to me right now? Step 2: remind myself that I’m not the only one experiencing/struggling with [whatever]. Step 3: pause to let yourself feel what you’re feeling.) I’d be interested if she has any tips for making it feel more warm/spontaneous/etc. and less rote
Neff’s book has been huge for my mental health. However, sometimes I find myself applying the self-compassion framework in a way that’s too formulaic, making it feel like a chore. (E.g., ’step 1: what would my best friend say to me right now? Step 2: remind myself that I’m not the only one experiencing/struggling with [whatever]. Step 3: pause to let yourself feel what you’re feeling.) I’d be interested if she has any tips for making it feel more warm/spontaneous/etc. and less rote