There were a lot of comments from a lot of women and men about a wide variety of topics brought up in the post. I strongly disagree that there were “only comments about polyamory” from “a lot of people with a very vague understanding of the sorts of pressures females face from men”.
Would you mind pointing out where did I say “only comments” as opposed to “a lot of people”? Thank you! The point is that it’s not ok to silence and downvote women who share their personal experiences, it does not matter if a man or a woman does the silencing. And yes, making it all about monogamy vs polyamory is a distractor from the larger issue as well.
Would you mind pointing out where did I say “only comments”
Here:
The point is that it’s not ok to silence and downvote women who share their personal experiences
There’s a difference between silencing a woman for sharing her personal experience and disagreeing with object-level suggestions. What gave you the impression that she was being silenced?
For example, one comment said:
”I feel a little conflicted, because on the one hand I want to respect and make space for you reporting your own experience. On the other hand, you are actually making concrete suggestions that I don’t agree with—suggestions that would make my life, as a woman in EA, worse. So I don’t know how to respond.”
There were a lot of comments from a lot of women and men about a wide variety of topics brought up in the post. I strongly disagree that there were “only comments about polyamory” from “a lot of people with a very vague understanding of the sorts of pressures females face from men”.
Would you mind pointing out where did I say “only comments” as opposed to “a lot of people”? Thank you! The point is that it’s not ok to silence and downvote women who share their personal experiences, it does not matter if a man or a woman does the silencing. And yes, making it all about monogamy vs polyamory is a distractor from the larger issue as well.
Here:
There’s a difference between silencing a woman for sharing her personal experience and disagreeing with object-level suggestions. What gave you the impression that she was being silenced?
For example, one comment said:
”I feel a little conflicted, because on the one hand I want to respect and make space for you reporting your own experience. On the other hand, you are actually making concrete suggestions that I don’t agree with—suggestions that would make my life, as a woman in EA, worse. So I don’t know how to respond.”