I wouldn’t use the words “quick trick”. For some people it won’t be quick or easy, and in my view it’s importantly not a “trick” either. When it ‘works’, it works exactly because it’s not a trick! (Of course other factors have to line up as well.) I suspect the underlying theory of change and values that guide people will be very different if they view this as a trick rather than if they have a deeper understanding of why this way of engagement can have very high returns.
Non-self-hatingness: Thinking that you are doing something valuable, that matters to you, that you don’t have to apologize for caring about, along with its implications
I wouldn’t call this non-self-hatingness, although self-hatred may heavily hamper what you’re describing. What you’re describing sounds closer to having genuine belief in the value of what you’re doing, or perhaps some amount of willingness to trust yourself in the face of criticism. What do you think?
I basically agree with the skills you say are required to execute this well, but I would phrase it in a softer way than using the word “requirement”—it makes it sound too binary and might unwittingly discourage some people by making it sound too fancy or requiring skills they don’t have and don’t know how to develop. Whereas the core idea is pretty simple and human (albeit with a wide range of difficulty of execution). I also think people can develop these skills, even if they start at a low level.
This is great.
A few musings/nitpicks:
I wouldn’t use the words “quick trick”. For some people it won’t be quick or easy, and in my view it’s importantly not a “trick” either. When it ‘works’, it works exactly because it’s not a trick! (Of course other factors have to line up as well.) I suspect the underlying theory of change and values that guide people will be very different if they view this as a trick rather than if they have a deeper understanding of why this way of engagement can have very high returns.
I wouldn’t call this non-self-hatingness, although self-hatred may heavily hamper what you’re describing. What you’re describing sounds closer to having genuine belief in the value of what you’re doing, or perhaps some amount of willingness to trust yourself in the face of criticism. What do you think?
I basically agree with the skills you say are required to execute this well, but I would phrase it in a softer way than using the word “requirement”—it makes it sound too binary and might unwittingly discourage some people by making it sound too fancy or requiring skills they don’t have and don’t know how to develop. Whereas the core idea is pretty simple and human (albeit with a wide range of difficulty of execution). I also think people can develop these skills, even if they start at a low level.