And if this is just a one-off, then it seems a lot less concerning, and taking action seems much less pressing. (Though it seems much easier to verify that this is a pattern, by finding other people in a similar situation to yours, than to verify that it isn’t, since there are incentives to be quiet about this sort of thing).
Is this the case? Often the reaction to the ‘first transgression’ will determine whether or not to do future ones—if people let it slide, then probably they don’t care that much, whereas if they react strongly, it’s important to repent and not do again.
And when there are patterns of behavior, especially in cases with significant power dynamics, it seems unlikely that you’d be able to collect such stories (in a usable way) without there being a prominent example of someone who shared their story and it went well for them.
Is this the case? Often the reaction to the ‘first transgression’ will determine whether or not to do future ones—if people let it slide, then probably they don’t care that much, whereas if they react strongly, it’s important to repent and not do again.
And when there are patterns of behavior, especially in cases with significant power dynamics, it seems unlikely that you’d be able to collect such stories (in a usable way) without there being a prominent example of someone who shared their story and it went well for them.