Frankly, with the absolute dismissiveness this issue of misgendering and misnaming and deadnaming is being handle by people here and the straight up cyberbullying and thought policing happening here around what should be an incredibly simple issue for supposed altruists to deal with, I highly doubt they’d come back here. This is not how good people deal with things that are literally matters of life and death for others. The complete lack of empathy in this thread is astounding.
Which comments are cyberbullying? I don’t think definition-gerrymandering to sort out “downvotes” from “thought policing” is useful, but I’d like to know where the cyberbullying is.
I mean, you can rationalize it all you want, but its a subjective rationalizing exercise and therefore, well, not meaningfully rational at all—except to you. The participants here are actively downvoting things they don’t want to hear or disagree with and you’d be completely dishonest if you claimed that was done without malice and you know it. This is not some forum populated by Mentats and you’d also be dishonest if you claimed this forum was devoid of active bigots.
For instance, after having been notified twice, the OP still has this person’s deadname in the post. Want to hear a story about a 13 year old I know that started cutting their face to quiet the bullies who insisted on using their deadname to taunt them?
That’s it, that’s the story. Now tell me it’s irrelevant to change language for altruists—an act and choice that literally costs people nothing. Go ahead and tell me the OP is just not quite properly updated.
Goodbye, this is so incredibly the opposite of altruism.
I’ve been trying to write a good response to everything in this post for an hour or so; it’s not easy to write well. Regarding the ban, I thought I’d at least post something that I know.
Frankly, with the absolute dismissiveness this issue of misgendering and misnaming and deadnaming is being handle by people here and the straight up cyberbullying and thought policing happening here around what should be an incredibly simple issue for supposed altruists to deal with, I highly doubt they’d come back here. This is not how good people deal with things that are literally matters of life and death for others. The complete lack of empathy in this thread is astounding.
Which comments are cyberbullying? I don’t think definition-gerrymandering to sort out “downvotes” from “thought policing” is useful, but I’d like to know where the cyberbullying is.
I literally opened my first comment with “avoiding deadnaming is important”, idk if you saw.
I mean, you can rationalize it all you want, but its a subjective rationalizing exercise and therefore, well, not meaningfully rational at all—except to you. The participants here are actively downvoting things they don’t want to hear or disagree with and you’d be completely dishonest if you claimed that was done without malice and you know it. This is not some forum populated by Mentats and you’d also be dishonest if you claimed this forum was devoid of active bigots.
For instance, after having been notified twice, the OP still has this person’s deadname in the post. Want to hear a story about a 13 year old I know that started cutting their face to quiet the bullies who insisted on using their deadname to taunt them?
That’s it, that’s the story. Now tell me it’s irrelevant to change language for altruists—an act and choice that literally costs people nothing. Go ahead and tell me the OP is just not quite properly updated.
Goodbye, this is so incredibly the opposite of altruism.
I’ve been trying to write a good response to everything in this post for an hour or so; it’s not easy to write well. Regarding the ban, I thought I’d at least post something that I know.