Hi. I’m not one of the people who downvoted you, and I’m not anonymous (while you actually are). But I’ll try to explain what I understand here.
On the one hand, you’re complaining about a behavior that made you feel uncomfortable and would probably make others too. This is important, and EAs should indeed make an effort to not exclude trans/queer people (or any other demographic). This inclusion is important to me personally.
On the other hand, you’re implicitly accusing anyone who replied to you of bad things (e.g. “actively harming people to the point of self harm, resulting in suicide and to the point of physical violence resulting in death”) rather than start off from the assumption that they are ignorant, or even have some reason you don’t see to do what they’re doing. And you’re ignoring the context that they’re trying to give you. You even took this conflict to an entirely unrelated comment thread.
Again, it speaks so much more about EA and this place that you all have put this much energy into policing me, while expending so little energy on reducing the harm you claim to be concerned about. Your forum norms are more important to you, for instance, than harm you could be causing others in this context. I find that incredibly problematic for people claiming to be the arbiters of doing good better and claiming to be altruists.
I personally expended energy not to police you but to answer your question (from the comment I replied to), because I thought it was bad that no one else answered.
I cannot speak for others, but certainly don’t see myself as “the arbiter of doing good better”.
Ah, I didn’t know what thread I was on. Seems the whole forum has decided they need to reasonsplain queer harm to the queer so I’ve got a lot of irons in the fire. Thanks for the response.
Hi. I’m not one of the people who downvoted you, and I’m not anonymous (while you actually are). But I’ll try to explain what I understand here.
On the one hand, you’re complaining about a behavior that made you feel uncomfortable and would probably make others too. This is important, and EAs should indeed make an effort to not exclude trans/queer people (or any other demographic). This inclusion is important to me personally.
On the other hand, you’re implicitly accusing anyone who replied to you of bad things (e.g. “actively harming people to the point of self harm, resulting in suicide and to the point of physical violence resulting in death”) rather than start off from the assumption that they are ignorant, or even have some reason you don’t see to do what they’re doing. And you’re ignoring the context that they’re trying to give you. You even took this conflict to an entirely unrelated comment thread.
Again, it speaks so much more about EA and this place that you all have put this much energy into policing me, while expending so little energy on reducing the harm you claim to be concerned about. Your forum norms are more important to you, for instance, than harm you could be causing others in this context. I find that incredibly problematic for people claiming to be the arbiters of doing good better and claiming to be altruists.
I personally expended energy not to police you but to answer your question (from the comment I replied to), because I thought it was bad that no one else answered.
I cannot speak for others, but certainly don’t see myself as “the arbiter of doing good better”.
Ah, I didn’t know what thread I was on. Seems the whole forum has decided they need to reasonsplain queer harm to the queer so I’ve got a lot of irons in the fire. Thanks for the response.