No, I’m just used to, as a woman, buttering most comments up (irl and online) in unnatural ways to not be seen as a bitch or low-intelligence or a clueless outsider. Right now I’m tired so maybe I over-corrected here, but living life in that way does cause anxiety, so that’s also a genuine anxious tone you’re catching. I read the other comments and they are getting upvotes when they clarify that they don’t really agree with the post or like it. I think I agree with and like the post more than the other commentors and have been considering writing similar.
It sucks that there is pretty much always someone ready to thumbs you down now matter how you word things, and it feels reasonable to spare a few words in the cases where it is most likely. (and this comment has no anxious tone because I see that is frowned upon here even though I’m now actually more anxious about this comment than the first one)
Very reasonable! I understand you feel like you have to walk a fine line in order to not trigger social disapproval of your words; I think that’s bad, and to be clear, I did not mean to make it seem like I disapproved of your comment. I wish EA could be a place where everyone felt comfortable speaking naturally without having to add a bunch of disclaimers.
People speaking up at risk to themselves does come with increased credibility and/or deserves attention, especially when it’s in opposition to a dogpiley bandwagon narrative that many people may feel obligated to be on the safe side of, without actually knowing or caring much about the matter.… or because they might feel slightly less insignificant watching the downfall of someone who had accomplished (and given) more in a couple years than they will do in a lifetime.
No, I’m just used to, as a woman, buttering most comments up (irl and online) in unnatural ways to not be seen as a bitch or low-intelligence or a clueless outsider. Right now I’m tired so maybe I over-corrected here, but living life in that way does cause anxiety, so that’s also a genuine anxious tone you’re catching. I read the other comments and they are getting upvotes when they clarify that they don’t really agree with the post or like it. I think I agree with and like the post more than the other commentors and have been considering writing similar.
It sucks that there is pretty much always someone ready to thumbs you down now matter how you word things, and it feels reasonable to spare a few words in the cases where it is most likely. (and this comment has no anxious tone because I see that is frowned upon here even though I’m now actually more anxious about this comment than the first one)
Very reasonable! I understand you feel like you have to walk a fine line in order to not trigger social disapproval of your words; I think that’s bad, and to be clear, I did not mean to make it seem like I disapproved of your comment. I wish EA could be a place where everyone felt comfortable speaking naturally without having to add a bunch of disclaimers.
People speaking up at risk to themselves does come with increased credibility and/or deserves attention, especially when it’s in opposition to a dogpiley bandwagon narrative that many people may feel obligated to be on the safe side of, without actually knowing or caring much about the matter.… or because they might feel slightly less insignificant watching the downfall of someone who had accomplished (and given) more in a couple years than they will do in a lifetime.