I’m not sure why I don’t see any answers to your questions. I would say (1) the community consensus is very clear that stealing billions is not “effective altruism”; (2) most EAs think that people with non-traditional sexual relationships can still be good people, which is not an opinion limited to EAs; and (3) we’re not generally messed up, predatory or dishonorable. But don’t take my word for it—try giving thousands of dollars to save children from malaria, or stop global warming, as I have, and see how predatory and dishonorable it makes you. I think you’ll find it actually doesn’t make you any worse than you were before.
I’m not sure why I don’t see any answers to your questions. I would say (1) the community consensus is very clear that stealing billions is not “effective altruism”; (2) most EAs think that people with non-traditional sexual relationships can still be good people, which is not an opinion limited to EAs; and (3) we’re not generally messed up, predatory or dishonorable. But don’t take my word for it—try giving thousands of dollars to save children from malaria, or stop global warming, as I have, and see how predatory and dishonorable it makes you. I think you’ll find it actually doesn’t make you any worse than you were before.