The incentive to make other connections is already there: you can tell it would make you happier. It’s a question of coming up with a good plan and then executing it.
Some possible ways to make connections in your city:
No EA events for the next six months. If you’ll miss your EA friends, tell them you’re interested in making friends outside the EA community, and that you’d like to hang out but you’d rather go to a bar or for a hike or something than to an EA meetup, and that they’re welcome to invite anyone who would enjoy whatever the activity is.
Start doing activities which are good for making connections: start playing football or another social sport; do some volunteering for something local; maybe get involved in politics, amateur dramatics, stand-up comedy, country dancing, etc. You don’t have to stick to any of these things long term if you don’t want to, but they’re good ways to meet people in your city—and then you can make friends with them, and make friends with their friends and so on.
Host a few dinner parties—this is fun, and will get you invited to dinner parties, house parties etc. When people have had a lovely evening, they like to reciprocate.
If you’re currently working from home and going into the office is an option, do that, try to build connection with your colleagues. If you’re working remotely, consider going to a co-working space or coffee-shop. If you’re a student, talk more to people on your course, join some clubs at your university. If you’re not currently working or studying—look for opportunities to start doing one of those things.
These are all quite generic suggestions: I don’t know enough about your situation to give more targeted advice. My instinct is that something else is causing you to feel alienated, and the presence of the EA community is not as significant a factor as you think it is. You should talk to a few people you’re close to about what’s going on, and what you might be able to do about it. There probably isn’t one drastic action that’s a silver bullet that will fix everything; you will have to put some work in.
The incentive to make other connections is already there: you can tell it would make you happier. It’s a question of coming up with a good plan and then executing it.
Some possible ways to make connections in your city:
No EA events for the next six months. If you’ll miss your EA friends, tell them you’re interested in making friends outside the EA community, and that you’d like to hang out but you’d rather go to a bar or for a hike or something than to an EA meetup, and that they’re welcome to invite anyone who would enjoy whatever the activity is.
Start doing activities which are good for making connections: start playing football or another social sport; do some volunteering for something local; maybe get involved in politics, amateur dramatics, stand-up comedy, country dancing, etc. You don’t have to stick to any of these things long term if you don’t want to, but they’re good ways to meet people in your city—and then you can make friends with them, and make friends with their friends and so on.
Host a few dinner parties—this is fun, and will get you invited to dinner parties, house parties etc. When people have had a lovely evening, they like to reciprocate.
If you’re currently working from home and going into the office is an option, do that, try to build connection with your colleagues. If you’re working remotely, consider going to a co-working space or coffee-shop. If you’re a student, talk more to people on your course, join some clubs at your university. If you’re not currently working or studying—look for opportunities to start doing one of those things.
These are all quite generic suggestions: I don’t know enough about your situation to give more targeted advice. My instinct is that something else is causing you to feel alienated, and the presence of the EA community is not as significant a factor as you think it is. You should talk to a few people you’re close to about what’s going on, and what you might be able to do about it. There probably isn’t one drastic action that’s a silver bullet that will fix everything; you will have to put some work in.
This seems like good advice