I feel one is always allowed not to speak about what they don’t want to, but that if one does decide to speak about something, they should never make a statement they know is a lie. This is sad, because depending on the issue and how it relates to your career and other stuff, you might not be able to just keep quiet, and besides, your silence is going to be interpreted uncharitably. People who have shown to consistently value and practice truth-saying should be allowed some sort of leeway, like ‘I will only answer n randomly chosen questions today (n also randomized) and you are not entitled to press further on anything I don’t answer’.
I feel one is always allowed not to speak about what they don’t want to, but that if one does decide to speak about something, they should never make a statement they know is a lie. This is sad, because depending on the issue and how it relates to your career and other stuff, you might not be able to just keep quiet, and besides, your silence is going to be interpreted uncharitably. People who have shown to consistently value and practice truth-saying should be allowed some sort of leeway, like ‘I will only answer n randomly chosen questions today (n also randomized) and you are not entitled to press further on anything I don’t answer’.
I 100 percent agree with that, which is where the wisdom comes in to choose not speak about many things.