This is such a hard question! Even the most dedicated altruists make some carveouts, and I don’t know of any consistent way that people decide what/​how big those carveouts should be. Some past writing on this: Friendship as a sacred value You have more than one goal, and that’s fine—as you can probably tell, I’ve mellowed some since my mid-twenties when I was interviewed in Strangers Drowning.
This is such a hard question! Even the most dedicated altruists make some carveouts, and I don’t know of any consistent way that people decide what/​how big those carveouts should be.
Some past writing on this:
Friendship as a sacred value
You have more than one goal, and that’s fine—as you can probably tell, I’ve mellowed some since my mid-twenties when I was interviewed in Strangers Drowning.