You don’t have to choose between having a positive impact on the world and having children; you can very much do both.
I don’t think anyone denies this. People say that having children will reduce effectiveness, not completely obliterate it.
At 12 months, things are pretty good.
This is nice to hear. How do you think your work productivity now compares to what it would have been if you hadn’t had children?
Also, how confident are you that this will continue? I’m not sure how the difficulty of being a parent is supposed to vary with the age of child, but it seems at least plausible that things can get even more difficult in the years when children are functioning human beings with their own flaws and troubles!
As a parent with older kids, I’ll point out that the demands differ, but (when there isn’t COVID,) you get back to having “work time” when kids are away, without the sleep deprivation that happens in the first year. (Mostly. There are still the occasional night waking, but these are sporadic and get fairly rare, instead of being chronic and making you horrible sleep deprived overall.) And yes, kids will dominate your free time while they are young, but in an enjoyable way (Mostly enjoyable. How much depends on the kids, and the age.)
And as they get older, the problems become much more like ones that you’d talk to a (younger, less mature) friend about, rather than being physical issues. Also, around the same time, they start to get more interesting to talk to, and you can teach them cool things, which is awesome. (And yes, I’m sure this changes again once they get to be teenagers. But I’m taking things a year at a time.)
Thanks for sharing!
I don’t think anyone denies this. People say that having children will reduce effectiveness, not completely obliterate it.
This is nice to hear. How do you think your work productivity now compares to what it would have been if you hadn’t had children?
Also, how confident are you that this will continue? I’m not sure how the difficulty of being a parent is supposed to vary with the age of child, but it seems at least plausible that things can get even more difficult in the years when children are functioning human beings with their own flaws and troubles!
As a parent with older kids, I’ll point out that the demands differ, but (when there isn’t COVID,) you get back to having “work time” when kids are away, without the sleep deprivation that happens in the first year. (Mostly. There are still the occasional night waking, but these are sporadic and get fairly rare, instead of being chronic and making you horrible sleep deprived overall.) And yes, kids will dominate your free time while they are young, but in an enjoyable way (Mostly enjoyable. How much depends on the kids, and the age.)
And as they get older, the problems become much more like ones that you’d talk to a (younger, less mature) friend about, rather than being physical issues. Also, around the same time, they start to get more interesting to talk to, and you can teach them cool things, which is awesome. (And yes, I’m sure this changes again once they get to be teenagers. But I’m taking things a year at a time.)
Thanks for sharing!