The thing is though that it is obviously not rational to do zero updating*. And you probably know this, since it is it obvious. So it’s hard not to conclude that you are doing it because at some (possibly not conscious) level you want people to think negatively about Ben, given that you believe he has treated you extremely unjustly and that this lead to the worst experience of your life.
*The problem with rumor is not that rumor is zero evidence, but that if everyone believes all rumors without question, things go very badly overall in predictable ways.
The thing is though that it is obviously not rational to do zero updating*. And you probably know this, since it is it obvious. So it’s hard not to conclude that you are doing it because at some (possibly not conscious) level you want people to think negatively about Ben, given that you believe he has treated you extremely unjustly and that this lead to the worst experience of your life.
*The problem with rumor is not that rumor is zero evidence, but that if everyone believes all rumors without question, things go very badly overall in predictable ways.