Let’s assume Nonlinear are completely right about how they describe Chloe and Alice. I’d summarize their perspective as follows:
Alice-as-described-by-Nonlinear is likely to be destructive in other contexts as well because that is a strong pattern with her generally. :(
By contrast,
Chloe-as-described-by-Nonlinear is significantly less likely to be destructive in other contexts. While Nonlinear claim that Chloe is entitled, it’s still the case that her beef with them is largely around the tensions of living together (primes her to expect equal-ness and friendship) combined with her having to do tasks for them that make her feel like her time isn’t being valued. (Plus things around the vagueness of her role and her being repeatedly negatively surprised by things they expect of her or ways they treat her.)
Even if you take Nonlinear’s account at face value, it seems like you’d have a lot of uncertainty about the claim “Chloe is likely to be destructive in other contexts.”
Lastly, I again want to flag that I don’t consider it established that Chloe is entitled or unreliable. ((To some degree, the same caveats may also apply to claims about Alice, but I haven’t focused on that much because it seems like Nonlinear have a lot of anonymized evidence?, and it’s hard to argue with that..., plus even Ben acknowledged that Alice feels like less reliable a source than Chloe.)) I don’t think someone has to be entitled to feel devalued doing assistant-type tasks for others. It really depends on how you’re treated. It’s a bit suspicious that an assistant feeling unvalued is framed as “the assistant didn’t like being an assistant.” Sure, this could be true. But it could also be true that the assistant simply didn’t like aspects of how they were treated, and these things can be subtle and not easy to explain, but we all know that there are “horrible bosses” and “entitled bosses,” so it’s not like this is a complaint with a very low base rate. For these reasons, I’m still quite skeptical of many of the claims against Chloe, even though I’d say the Nonlinear document has updated me in their direction somewhat.
Edit to add: In case some people lack some of the relevant context, this is Chloe in her own words. I think she comes across well and in a purely vibes-based way, I trust her narration more than I trust the Nonlinear texts. (Not to mention that Nonlinear in their document simply cut out or selectively quoted/re-stated/paraphrased passages in her stories/accounts to make it seem less compelling. Like, a lot of her specific complaints there feel like they aren’t addressed well or at all by Nonlinear. Update: see my comment here for examples.)
Yeah.
Let’s assume Nonlinear are completely right about how they describe Chloe and Alice. I’d summarize their perspective as follows:
Alice-as-described-by-Nonlinear is likely to be destructive in other contexts as well because that is a strong pattern with her generally. :(
By contrast,
Chloe-as-described-by-Nonlinear is significantly less likely to be destructive in other contexts. While Nonlinear claim that Chloe is entitled, it’s still the case that her beef with them is largely around the tensions of living together (primes her to expect equal-ness and friendship) combined with her having to do tasks for them that make her feel like her time isn’t being valued. (Plus things around the vagueness of her role and her being repeatedly negatively surprised by things they expect of her or ways they treat her.)
Even if you take Nonlinear’s account at face value, it seems like you’d have a lot of uncertainty about the claim “Chloe is likely to be destructive in other contexts.”
Lastly, I again want to flag that I don’t consider it established that Chloe is entitled or unreliable. ((To some degree, the same caveats may also apply to claims about Alice, but I haven’t focused on that much because it seems like Nonlinear have a lot of anonymized evidence?, and it’s hard to argue with that..., plus even Ben acknowledged that Alice feels like less reliable a source than Chloe.)) I don’t think someone has to be entitled to feel devalued doing assistant-type tasks for others. It really depends on how you’re treated. It’s a bit suspicious that an assistant feeling unvalued is framed as “the assistant didn’t like being an assistant.” Sure, this could be true. But it could also be true that the assistant simply didn’t like aspects of how they were treated, and these things can be subtle and not easy to explain, but we all know that there are “horrible bosses” and “entitled bosses,” so it’s not like this is a complaint with a very low base rate. For these reasons, I’m still quite skeptical of many of the claims against Chloe, even though I’d say the Nonlinear document has updated me in their direction somewhat.
Edit to add: In case some people lack some of the relevant context, this is Chloe in her own words. I think she comes across well and in a purely vibes-based way, I trust her narration more than I trust the Nonlinear texts. (Not to mention that Nonlinear in their document simply cut out or selectively quoted/re-stated/paraphrased passages in her stories/accounts to make it seem less compelling. Like, a lot of her specific complaints there feel like they aren’t addressed well or at all by Nonlinear. Update: see my comment here for examples.)