Could you clarify what concretely you do want to happen, then, if not less tolerance of polyamory? What would be different, if polyamory was not a sacred cow? What are the possible conclusions we could come to after reflecting on this?
I donât have a particular agenda about âwhat should happenâ here. Iâve said we should scrutinize the ways that polyamorous norms could be abused in high trust communities. Iâm not sure what the outcome would be, but I would certainly hope itâs not intolerance of poly communities.
I would readily agree that someâperhaps mostâof these problems could also be solved by ensuring EA spaces are purely professional, but it does seem a bit obtuse to not understand that someone could feel more uncomfortable when asked to join a polycule at an EA meet up than simply being asked on a date.
I think an ideal outcome would to reduce the association between EA and polyâsuch that poly is not a major cultural touchstone within EAâwhile keeping EA a welcoming and respectful place for poly people.
Could you clarify what concretely you do want to happen, then, if not less tolerance of polyamory? What would be different, if polyamory was not a sacred cow? What are the possible conclusions we could come to after reflecting on this?
I donât have a particular agenda about âwhat should happenâ here. Iâve said we should scrutinize the ways that polyamorous norms could be abused in high trust communities. Iâm not sure what the outcome would be, but I would certainly hope itâs not intolerance of poly communities.
I would readily agree that someâperhaps mostâof these problems could also be solved by ensuring EA spaces are purely professional, but it does seem a bit obtuse to not understand that someone could feel more uncomfortable when asked to join a polycule at an EA meet up than simply being asked on a date.
I think an ideal outcome would to reduce the association between EA and polyâsuch that poly is not a major cultural touchstone within EAâwhile keeping EA a welcoming and respectful place for poly people.