I don’t have a particular agenda about “what should happen” here. I’ve said we should scrutinize the ways that polyamorous norms could be abused in high trust communities. I’m not sure what the outcome would be, but I would certainly hope it’s not intolerance of poly communities.
I would readily agree that some—perhaps most—of these problems could also be solved by ensuring EA spaces are purely professional, but it does seem a bit obtuse to not understand that someone could feel more uncomfortable when asked to join a polycule at an EA meet up than simply being asked on a date.
I think an ideal outcome would to reduce the association between EA and poly—such that poly is not a major cultural touchstone within EA—while keeping EA a welcoming and respectful place for poly people.
I don’t have a particular agenda about “what should happen” here. I’ve said we should scrutinize the ways that polyamorous norms could be abused in high trust communities. I’m not sure what the outcome would be, but I would certainly hope it’s not intolerance of poly communities.
I would readily agree that some—perhaps most—of these problems could also be solved by ensuring EA spaces are purely professional, but it does seem a bit obtuse to not understand that someone could feel more uncomfortable when asked to join a polycule at an EA meet up than simply being asked on a date.
I think an ideal outcome would to reduce the association between EA and poly—such that poly is not a major cultural touchstone within EA—while keeping EA a welcoming and respectful place for poly people.